How do you measure success?

How do you measure success?

What defines success for you?

I’ve been chasing a dream.  A dream of me being successful in many aspects of my life.  In a job that has been my career all my life in the environment.  As a wife.  A mother.  A friend.  A sister.  A daughter.  A seamstress.  A designer.  An artist.  A writer.  An active community volunteer.

My husband asks me frequently.  When will you know you’ve been successful?  I thought I had clear milestones that as I reached them I’d know.  But as in life, things change.  Your pathway to get where you are headed is full of curves and steep hills to climb.

Nothing comes without sacrifice and hard work. You don’t get anywhere by sitting back and taking the easy way out.

I have always known that come one day I will not be judged for how many students I have helped along the way or how well I stitched up an idea or how good dinner was that evening.  Every day is a success and I don’t have to have it all in order to define success for me.  Or so I keep telling myself.  It’s already been achieved.  I am loved for being just as good as I am today and no more.  By my family, friends and most importantly, by the God that created me to be me.  And I wonder if I needed to go through all those steep hills and curves to come to that conclusion.  Because I sure haven’t felt that way or had that truth before.

For today, what is important for me?   I love working on the sewing patterns.  I love making one of kind items where I just randomly throw things together.  I love to sew for my family and friends and even for me.  I love to sew for others too who I don’t know via my etsy shop.  I love working on projects for magazines and sharing ideas.  I love what I do at my university job and working with students. There is joy in all of those things.  I love to read.  Hike.  Try new recipes.  Spend time with friends.  Go to the pool in the summer.  Watch movies.  Blog hop.

Success for me is defined each day that I feel like I gave my best and I don’t regret at the end of the day that I could have done more.  Good enough is going to be good enough.  My dreams have already gone way beyond what I ever imagined and each day that I try to push myself and keep reaching is a success.  Every day.  Success.  Achieved.  {but that should give some explanation why I decided to shut down custom orders for a bit on my etsy shop – taking a few irons out of the fire}

It’s like worrying that the house isn’t all clean for company and then you just let that go, relax, and just enjoy your company because life isn’t about the stuff it’s about the relationships.  My “business plan” is that messy house so I’m just letting go and doing what I can and finding I can relax and enjoy all the company without going crazy about how dusty the blinds are.  Make sense?  You know this is temporary, right?  Because being uber busy is hard for me to NOT do.  Please feel free to frequently remind me of this post.

I have met so many wonderfully amazing women via this crafting online community.  Talented, and kind, and supportive, and encouraging, insightful, and smart.  You ARE all hugely successful!  Speaking of success….

I want to introduce you to one of my very successful blog friends who is a super duper editor. Sarah is one of the testers for my sewing patterns and has a terrific eye for finding all of my errors!

I’m mom to three little bundles of energy, 2, 4 and 5. Long, long ago I taught math and worked in the engineering world, but now I am fortunate to stay at home with my little ones. I have loved fabric and sewing as long as I can remember and first learned how to quilt right along with my mother in high school. About four years ago I learned about the world of digital scrapbooking and quickly jumped into designing products for sale. I spend that precious and rare free time making digital scrapbook kits, sewing or baking.

Sarah also has a new fabric collection available on Spoonflower…Count on me. Check out her lovely creations!

Successful in so many ways.  Thank you Sarah so sincerely for all of your help, you are amazing.

What successes did you have today?   Leave a comment, share your blog link, share your successes.

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6 Responses

  1. Hi Trish. I would MUCH rather spend time with my kids than clean. What is that saying about cobwebs and babies to keep? I can’t remember … Anyway, I just wanted to say how grateful I am that I met you:). You’re one of my all time favorite internet crafty friends and I wish you all the success in the world! Have a great week~Paige

  2. Having time for others. That is success in life. I have learned that it is a process that is hard to grasp, we `think’ we get it & we think we are good at it, we think when we multi task we are doing such a wonderful service to all..but we are really falling short to to every one. What we need to be doing is Stop & look at whoever is speaking to us & look them in the eye & `listen’ & act like they are the only person in the world… give everyone at least 2 minutes like this ..at the very least the people in your home..your children always..show them that your face & eyes light up when your see them..Listen with your eyes ..ears & heart..stop what your are doing sit..clasp your hands together.. & smile..
    My dad recently died, a very sudden & very unexpected death. It has literally thrown me into such a turmoil of emotions… I adored my dad, He was a wonderful man, a 3 generation firefighter,a man who helped everyone, who never got a break, a hard worker. Every day I think about him, My childhood flashs & all that he did, he will never be forgotten… I think of things I wanted to say to him…In the past few years we spent a lot of time together after he had a severe strokes & lost vision in 1 eye, so we had a lot of time driving to dr appts & in waiting room for surgery & so many dr appts over the last 3 yrs.
    Success, Is loving your loved oves NOW ! telling them NOW..
    putting down the things that really do not matter in this life, when you are waiting in the ICU ask yourself is this really important??
    My husband has a mini stroke a month after my dad. I had put my quilting & crocheting & everything ….& just clasped my hands in prayer… success was being there. holding their hands thlling them that I loved them & how much they touched my life.

    • I couldn’t agree with you more that NOW is the time and you can’t wait. We often get so caught up in every day that we lose sight of that. Thank you so much for sharing. I’m so sorry for your loss and struggles.

  3. Small success today – I managed to get a big grocery shop done because this week is jam packed with deadlines and I don’t want to do daily dinner shops like I usually end up doing! On to paperwork now…hopefully the sewing machine tonight.

    I used to think getting my teeth brushed in the a.m. was a success – now my kids are young teens, I have broadened my scope. Having an article and pattern published this summer and fall in the Canadian quilting mag has been my most recent “me” success. Thanks for sharing and asking!

  4. Completely agree with your business plan! Yes, a clean organized house is nice, but time spent with loved ones and doing things that make your heart happy are much more important.

    Thanks for your sweet feature! 🙂

    I’m considering this week a success because I got that fancy-smancy dress sewn in nick of time despite a rotten string of migraines and that I started a little quilt just for me that I’ve really been wanting to start despite feeling cruddy. Today’s big success – no headache!

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